Error when sending large message to remote actors

[iori2333]

Describe the bug
When communicating with remote actors, messages are sent via grpc, which has limited single message extent to 4MB (4194304 bytes). Therefore, when messages are larger than 4MB (a hi-res image for instance), Proto Actor will fail sending them.

Here's outputs:

# client
3:15AM INF EndpointWriter connected lib=Proto.Actor system=VSXywC7bpefCDZRBtoED8w address=127.0.0.1:8080 cost=1.811262ms
3:15AM ERR EndpointWriter lost connection lib=Proto.Actor system=VSXywC7bpefCDZRBtoED8w address=127.0.0.1:8080 error="rpc error: code = ResourceExhausted desc = grpc: received message larger than max (10485815 vs. 4194304)"
3:15AM INF EndpointWatcher handling terminated lib=Proto.Actor system=VSXywC7bpefCDZRBtoED8w address=127.0.0.1:8080 watched=0
# server
3:15AM INF EndpointReader failed to read lib=Proto.Actor system=ng79Vwy5kszALchGm4Y3RS error="rpc error: code = ResourceExhausted desc = grpc: received message larger than max (10485815 vs. 4194304)"
3:15AM INF EndpointReader is closing lib=Proto.Actor system=ng79Vwy5kszALchGm4Y3RS

To Reproduce

• Message:

message A {
  bytes Data = 1;
}

• Server:

props := actor.PropsFromFunc(func(c actor.Context) {
switch msg := c.Message().(type) {
case *proto.A:
	c.Logger().Info(msg.String())
}
})
system.Root.SpawnNamed(props, "server")

• Client:

server := actor.NewPID("127.0.0.1:8080", "server")

system.Root.Send(server, &proto.A{
Data: generateBytes(1024 * 1024 * 10), // a very large message
})

Expected behavior
An option to set the max message length should be provided, or the platform should support streaming messages.

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[rogeralsing]

Just changing the message size limit is possible by configuring the Remote layer.

func WithDialOptions(options ...grpc.DialOption) ConfigOption {
	return func(config *Config) {
		config.DialOptions = options
	}
}

// WithServerOptions sets the server options for the remote
func WithServerOptions(options ...grpc.ServerOption) ConfigOption {
	return func(config *Config) {
		config.ServerOptions = options
	}
}

Adding streaming support to messages is problematic as we are at the mercy of gRPC itself here.
to make this work we would first have to get the size of the message and then write it in chunks.
This would likely severely impact overall performance.

but if someone want to give this a try, I´m flagging this as up for grabs