Focusing.md

Key ideas

	flowchart TD
    1((Me))
	2(friends and family)
	3(media)
	4(environment)
	5(feelings)
	2 --> 1
	3 --> 1
	4 --> 1
	5 --> 1

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• The king metaphor - how do you communicate with your feelings advisor?
• Useful for [[goal factoring]] and [[Inner Simulator]]
• A way of pulling out stored information
• See [[internal family systems]]

The process

flowchart TD
    1(Notice felt-sense)
	2(Describe felt-sense)
	3(First impression)
	4(Talk at emotion)
	5(Resolution)
	1-->2
	2-->3
	3-->4
	4-.->|identify more felt-senses|2
	4-->|feel a shift|5

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In detail

Notice felt-sense:

• point to where it is in your body

Describe felt-sense:

• be specific
• use metaphors
• e.g. tension in shoulders, rock in stomach

First impression

• "is it on your side or against you?"
• self-destructive -> likely against
• just a gut check, you can talk at and change your mind

Talk at

• offer an explanation or root cause
• "my tension in my shoulders is X, caused by Y..."
• see if your feeling changes
• if more come up, return to description

Feel a shift once identified

Resolution

• "thank you"
• "I appreciate you"
• "I commit to doing X for you"
• "I will look out for Y"

[[questions about focusing]]