[Refactor](query) refactor lock in fragment mgr and change std::unorder_map to phmap #44821

[zhiqiang-hhhh]

cherry pick from #44821

[zhiqiang-hhhh]

run buildall

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clang-tidy made some suggestions

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warning: function '_get_or_create_query_ctx' has cognitive complexity of 69 (threshold 50) [readability-function-cognitive-complexity]

Status FragmentMgr::_get_or_create_query_ctx(const TPipelineFragmentParams& params,
                    ^

Additional context

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:666: +1, including nesting penalty of 0, nesting level increased to 1

    DBUG_EXECUTE_IF("FragmentMgr._get_query_ctx.failed", {
    ^

be/src/util/debug_points.h:36: expanded from macro 'DBUG_EXECUTE_IF'

    if (UNLIKELY(config::enable_debug_points)) {                              \
    ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:666: +2, including nesting penalty of 1, nesting level increased to 2

    DBUG_EXECUTE_IF("FragmentMgr._get_query_ctx.failed", {
    ^

be/src/util/debug_points.h:38: expanded from macro 'DBUG_EXECUTE_IF'

        if (dp) {                                                             \
        ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:674: +1, including nesting penalty of 0, nesting level increased to 1

    if (params.is_simplified_param) {
    ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:676: +2, including nesting penalty of 1, nesting level increased to 2

        if (!query_ctx) {
        ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:682: +1, nesting level increased to 1

    } else {
      ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:683: +2, including nesting penalty of 1, nesting level increased to 2

        if (!query_ctx) {
        ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:687: +3, including nesting penalty of 2, nesting level increased to 3

            if (search != _query_ctx_map.end()) {
            ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:691: +3, including nesting penalty of 2, nesting level increased to 3

            if (!query_ctx) {
            ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:705: +4, including nesting penalty of 3, nesting level increased to 4

                RETURN_IF_ERROR(DescriptorTbl::create(&(query_ctx->obj_pool), params.desc_tbl,
                ^

be/src/common/status.h:632: expanded from macro 'RETURN_IF_ERROR'

    do {                                \
    ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:705: +5, including nesting penalty of 4, nesting level increased to 5

                RETURN_IF_ERROR(DescriptorTbl::create(&(query_ctx->obj_pool), params.desc_tbl,
                ^

be/src/common/status.h:634: expanded from macro 'RETURN_IF_ERROR'

        if (UNLIKELY(!_status_.ok())) { \
        ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:708: +4, including nesting penalty of 3, nesting level increased to 4

                if (params.__isset.file_scan_params) {
                ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:714: +4, including nesting penalty of 3, nesting level increased to 4

                if (params.__isset.resource_info) {
                ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:722: +4, including nesting penalty of 3, nesting level increased to 4

                if (params.__isset.workload_groups && !params.workload_groups.empty()) {
                ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:722: +1

                if (params.__isset.workload_groups && !params.workload_groups.empty()) {
                                                   ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:726: +5, including nesting penalty of 4, nesting level increased to 5

                    if (workload_group_ptr != nullptr) {
                    ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:727: +6, including nesting penalty of 5, nesting level increased to 6

                        RETURN_IF_ERROR(workload_group_ptr->add_query(query_id, query_ctx));
                        ^

be/src/common/status.h:632: expanded from macro 'RETURN_IF_ERROR'

    do {                                \
    ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:727: +7, including nesting penalty of 6, nesting level increased to 7

                        RETURN_IF_ERROR(workload_group_ptr->add_query(query_id, query_ctx));
                        ^

be/src/common/status.h:634: expanded from macro 'RETURN_IF_ERROR'

        if (UNLIKELY(!_status_.ok())) { \
        ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:728: +6, including nesting penalty of 5, nesting level increased to 6

                        RETURN_IF_ERROR(query_ctx->set_workload_group(workload_group_ptr));
                        ^

be/src/common/status.h:632: expanded from macro 'RETURN_IF_ERROR'

    do {                                \
    ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:728: +7, including nesting penalty of 6, nesting level increased to 7

                        RETURN_IF_ERROR(query_ctx->set_workload_group(workload_group_ptr));
                        ^

be/src/common/status.h:634: expanded from macro 'RETURN_IF_ERROR'

        if (UNLIKELY(!_status_.ok())) { \
        ^

be/src/runtime/fragment_mgr.cpp:731: +1, nesting level increased to 5

                    } else {
                      ^