Fix invoker ignored to destroy when unlock failed (#13123)

* Fix invoker ignored to destroy when unlock failed

* update code

dubbo-rpc/dubbo-rpc-api/src/main/java/org/apache/dubbo/rpc/protocol/ReferenceCountInvokerWrapper.java

@@ -66,7 +66,14 @@ public void destroy() {
         } catch (InterruptedException e) {
             Thread.currentThread().interrupt();
         } finally {
-            lock.writeLock().unlock();
+            try {
+                lock.writeLock().unlock();
+            } catch (IllegalMonitorStateException ignore) {
+                // ignore if lock failed, maybe in a long invoke
+            } catch (Throwable t) {
+                logger.warn(LoggerCodeConstants.PROTOCOL_CLOSED_SERVER, "", "",
+                    "Unexpected error occurred when releasing write lock, cause: " + t.getMessage(), t);
+            }
         }
         invoker.destroy();
     }