Make strict hostname checking optional on SSL

[wintersrd]

Problem

SSL hostname checking is strict by default, but not all connections can be guaranteed to be properly configured. In our integrations, one partner frequently uses misconfigured self-signed certificates which are valid but do not match the database host

Proposed changes

This PR adds an optional argument that would allow disabling strict checking of hostname when using SSL. Default behavior is unchanged

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